After BreakUp…

Single Person’s darkest days fall after a breakup…

“You risked your heart.

You shared your life.

You bought the gifts, made the memories, and dreamed your dreams together — and it fell apart. Now, you’re back at four-sided one in the quest for marriage, and it feels lonelier than square one, and further from the altar, because of all you’ve spent and lost some valuable person in your Life.”

No one begins dating someone hoping to break it off someday…

It’s never easy when a significant relationship ends. Whatever the reason for the split—and whether you wanted it or not—the breakup of a relationship can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling feelings. But there are plenty of things you can do to get through this difficult time and move on. You can even learn from the experience and grow into a stronger, wiser person than you were before.

At some point you have to realize that some people can stay in your Heart, but not in your Life…

Why do breakups hurt so much, even when the connection is no longer good? Breakup is painful because it represents the loss, not just of the relationship, but also of commitments and shared dreams. Romantic relationships begin on a high note of excitement and hope for the upcoming days. When these relationships fail, we experience profound disappointment, stress, and heartache.

Allow yourself to grieve the loss of Relationship…

Heartache is a natural reaction to loss, and the breakup of a love relationship involves multiple losses:

• Loss of companionship and shared experiences
• Loss of support, be it financial, intellectual, social, or emotional
• Loss of hopes, plans, and dreams

Allowing yourself to feel the pain of these losses may be creepy. You may fear that your emotions will be too intense to bear, or that you’ll be stuck in a dark place forever. Just remember that heartbroken is essential to the healing process. The pain of grief is exactly what helps you let go of the old relationship and move on. And no matter how strong your sorrow, it won’t last forever.

I feel it deeply even typing these words. It’s one of the hardest things for me to write or speak about: the pain of affection that fell after breakup.

Perhaps something remains unsaid for you, even now. Perhaps that’s why your feelings remain so strong. Or perhaps they are entangled with non-relationship issues – a sense of getting older, time passing, or the life you hoped for.

Perhaps part of you holds out hope you could get back together again. Perhaps you need to admit that and let go of it. Maybe your fear you won’t meet anyone else like your ex. You won’t, but you will meet someone. Just they will be different.

Probably all these thinking’s will not allow you to overcome and accept breakup. But at some point you have to let go people who cannot stay in your life for lifetime, accept and let go, find happiness in some other ways, hope for the good and best comes your way.

If you can’t forget some things in life, make sure you don’t give yourself time to remember them…

Learn important lessons from breakups…

• Sometimes it’s Ok to cry, and probably you should that lets you emotions out of your mind and heart
• Don’t try again too quickly
• Try not to remember the old days, avoid contacting to your partners after breakups
• You’re better having loved and lost
• Learn from lost love/relationship
• Find yourself, have fun with your friends

Accept what it is, let go what it was and welcome what comes next… defines your Life

Finally I would like to say to all heartbreakers out there – ‘God will find Joy in the shadows of heartbreak.’ “No relationship you have in this life will last forever, but the good things that take place through them in you — even through their sorrows, yes even through their breakdowns — will.”

Give yourself a new way, new opportunity to leave it behind and Move on…